Are Your Opinions On Parenting As Strong As When You Were A New Parent?

Your Alpharetta Milton Moms Council invites you to discuss the Mommy Wars today. Remember all of the discussions we all had when we were pregnant and when the kids were just born? The working moms were against the stay at home moms and the nursing moms were against the formula feeding moms and the reverse was true too. We debated to cry it out or co-sleep. You name it, new moms have an opinion.

Now that the kids are a bit older, even if its just by a few years, what do you think now? Are your opinions just as strong? Do you still get heated by the same topics? Do you think you made the right decision or have you changed your mind? These are all questions to think about as we look at this weeks question.

Q: Do you think you or your family is or is not better off because of any of these "Mommy War" choices you made?

A: I remember when my girls were infants and everyone had an opinion on how I should raise them, and it drove me nuts!!!!  I used to sit and listen and nod my head while thinking of some other more pleasant thought than listening to my sister tell me how I should be breast feeding.  While I commend the mothers that do it just was not for me, and I sure didn't want to see another mother doing it in front of me.  That is still a big Mommy War to cover or not to cover.  I guess it all boils down to this do what's best for you and your family and leave the unwanted opinions on the outside and carry on with life.  (I know easier said than done especially coming from a mom who is out of the infant stage) -Lori Salata, mom of 2

A: I did what I knew was right for my family and I do not regret those decisions. My kids are now 7, 9 and 11. I co-slept and everyone told me that my kids would sleep with me forever. They all sleep in their own beds now and have for several years. I am happy with that decision. I nursed them all for a year and have no regrets. I even did extended nursing for my daughter who had medical issues and could not change her diet at 12 months. I was a stay at home mom and feel blessed that I was able to do that. I do not have regrets on those typical mommy war issues. I have enough regrets elsewhere to make up for that.

I have never been one to get into a debate about the topics. I just assume that we all do what we think is best as mommies. I may not understand the opposing viewpoint and may not agree with other parent's decisions, but I am certainly not in a position to judge other moms. -Tammy Bester, mom of 3